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Writer's pictureEvelyn Ball

What is Wrong With Me?

Updated: 4 days ago

At some point, many of us have felt the weight of this question swirling in our minds. In today’s fast-paced, technology-driven, and hyper-individualized culture, thoughts like these seem almost inevitable. We juggle multiple roles, compare ourselves endlessly, and live under the pressure of societal expectations. It’s no wonder so many of us find ourselves trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and gut-wrenching emotional pain.


Here’s the truth: inner conflict, emotional struggle, and suffering are deeply human experiences. But what makes these moments so challenging is the way our beliefs, external messages, and unrealistic expectations amplify them. These forces can make it feel impossible to break free from the spiral of self-criticism and questioning.


The Missed Opportunity

What if, instead of pushing these thoughts away, we viewed them as an invitation?

There’s a powerful opportunity in stepping into your discomfort, leaning into the struggle, and exploring what your pain is trying to teach you. This isn't about indulging in self-pity; it's about courageously facing the parts of yourself that are calling for attention.


The Path to Self Understanding and Greater Resilience

Next time you find yourself gripped by that familiar thought—What is wrong with me?—pause. Instead of running from it, sit with it. Breathe deeply and let yourself feel where and how this thought resides in your body. Is it a tightness in your chest? A weight on your shoulders? A churning in your stomach?

Then, dialogue with it:

  • I am aware of you. Is there something you want me to know?

  • I am curious about you. What is the source of your pain?

  • I believe somehow your intention is to protect or communicate with me.

At first, this might feel strange. But when you approach your inner struggles with curiosity, something profound begins to happen. You create space for this part of you to express itself without fear of judgment or rejection. Pay attention to images, memories, or thoughts that appear spontaneously as you explore with curiosity.


The Power of Inviting Distress to Have a Voice

When you give your distress a voice, it shifts. The act of listening helps transform the rawness of suffering into an act of self-love. Over time, you’ll see these vulnerable parts of yourself not as enemies to be silenced but as misunderstood allies or innocent kids seeking connection and healing. Through this process, a new internal relationship is formed—one rooted in compassion and understanding. You may find that the more you embrace these parts of yourself, the more calm, openness, and resilience you cultivate.



Embracing the Journey

Growing isn’t about rejecting and shunning pain but learning to hold it in a way that fosters self-understanding and trust. So, the next time you feel trapped in the question, What is wrong with me? Remember: this is not a sign of brokenness. It’s an invitation to connect more deeply with yourself and uncover the relationship and wisdom waiting within. You’re not alone—and there isn't something intrinsically wrong with you. The human experience is paved with moments of doubt, struggle, and growth. Embrace distress as a neglected young You that needs your attunement and presence to shift from desperately confused to connected and calm.

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